Earlier today, I came across this post entitled rooftop magic, through an Instragram photo by Rachael Ringenberg of Erstwhile Dear. It was as lovely as you'd expect from the title, as is Anna's entire site. As Anna described the role of Rachael's husband in the event, I was reminded of the magical experience I was lucky enough to share with my own dear friends last week. Our magic was of the patio variety, we traded skyscrapers for trees and blankets for armchairs... but there were drinks and snacks and conversation that brings you back together when you've scattered for a bit.
There are seasons in life that require all of your attention - new jobs, taking care of an ill parent, unexpected volunteer commitments. It seems motherhood is as equally all-encompassing a season, yet one that, for some women, never seems to require less than everything they have. There are some for whom adding friends into the mix, especially single ones (because how could we understand), seems impossible. And while I've noticed this phenomena in others more than I have experienced it myself, I am nonetheless grateful for those friends who make the effort to maintain their friend time. From those little acts and invitations, I learn so much. I learn that this is an effort that only succeeds when there's a partner on the other end saying "yes, go, we've got this." It appears that in some ways, motherhood is like any other job - to succeed you have to surround yourself with people you can rely on, people you can trust to do things just as well as you would have... or at least good enough to past the mustard for an evening.
However, I don't speak from field experience, only from my spot on the sidelines ... and I didn't set out to make a comment about motherhood, as much to express my gratefulness for my friends who are out there in the game and making space on the team for everyone. At the end of the day, every woman needs to make space in her life for a little magic, does she not?